Karen allowed Fran to vent her feelings and then asked Fran to do a role-play. To "be" Prem for a moment and experience the guilt and remorse he was going through. Karen challenged Fran, asking if she wanted to be a victim and feel traumatised forever? Karen explained that to begin rebuilding trust Fran first had to want to trust. She had to make the decision to trust Prem in her head - even if her emotions felt she couldn't. Fran had to stop searching for evidence of the affair. And on his part, Prem had to volunteer information about his activities and whereabouts and answer Fran's many repeated questions with patience. This was the "price" he had to pay for his infidelity

In time Fran's need to ask Prem questions diminished. When she did ask, he answered her without frustration. He reassured Fran of his commitment to her, telling her his every move and phoning her if there were delays or changes to his schedule - even though he felt this was very restricting at the time. Trust was restored to a point where Fran could manage her negativity and suspicion.

Following infidelity, if both parties want the relationship to continue they each must do the work of restoring trust. The person betrayed often feels this is unjust, but if he or she does not take some responsibility for relieving his or her emotional pain, they will remain a victim for a very long time. It takes two for a relationship to break down, so when it does it's a good time to start seeing the situation from each other's perspective.