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| Raging
- Kids in Crisis By Karen Gosling, counseling Director |
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 In this series of real-life case studies, Karen Gosling recounts client stories compiled from Gosling International's files. The permission of clients has been obtained to present these case histories. Names and places used have been changed to protect cilent privacy. |
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| Sally came to counseling desperate for help with her seven year old son Max who had frequent rages, "It's as though he's possessed", she explained. At unpredictable times Max would lose control, become hysterical and shout foul language at siblings, parents or even teachers. He also threatened to harm himself because he hated his life and following each rage Max would sob with remorse and seek comfort. Max realised his behaviour was inappropriate but was unable to control himself, Sally felt his behaviour was completely out of character. | |
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Max was a very sensitive boy, meaning that he felt his feelings with intensity. When Max felt a negative emotion he felt it strongly and if unable to resolve it or articulate it, the pain accumulated and resulted in intermittent rage - his reaction to stress. Rage is also common in teenagers and is usually a result of the intense emotions and frustrations experienced during puberty. |
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Karen urged Sally
to not respond emotionally to Max but to detach herself and acknowledge
his painful feelings. For example, "Max, you must be really angry
that I'm asking you to help me when you want to watch TV". If Sally
gets it right Max will probably agree and calm down, as he now feels
understood instead of annoyed. Karen explained that Max will yell
how unhappy he is with his life when he feels completely isolated.
When misunderstood by everyone around him it feels as if no one
understands the pain he is experiencing. |
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| Karen's advice for moving on | |
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Karen Gosling is counseling Director at Gosling International. She is a graduate of the University of South Australia and holds a Master of Public Health from the University of Adelaide. Karen is a Registered Social Worker in Singapore and is a member of the Australian Association of Social Workers and the Singapore Association of Social Workers. Gosling International is a leading emotional leadership consultancy based in Singapore, serving committed clients worldwide. Goslings mission is one of education and empowerment; to elevate emotional well-being. Gosling International provides face-to-face, telephone and email emotional leadership consultations for individuals, couples, and family groups. If you want a professional to help you with behavioural change or deal with your emotional distress, personal problems, or are simply troubled by your feelings, phone Karen or Mike Gosling on (65) 6281-5157. Consulting
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